Writing My Story...

Lately I have been pondering if I want to write about "my story". I almost feel some bloggers have their own personal or special story they end up sharing. Now that I have been set in my family life and things are settled, I am able to look back and see the whole picture. I can finally write my story with an ending. Although is there ever an ending to a story? Or maybe it's just a new beginning to a story. While I was thinking about writing my story, I contacted the close people in my life and questioned if I should even write it. They made me feel empowered to write. Now your probably questioning what "my story" is? My story is about my journey of a teenage mother. What it was like finding out a couple weeks before my 18th birthday I was pregnant. Along with the journey of what it was like being a teenage mother. There are so many factors that play a role of a teenage mother. Tough decisions that are heartbreaking to think about even still to this day. I will admit I made the best decisions ever, by raising my beautiful daughter! I can't wait to finish writing my story and for my family, friends, and reader to read it. Maybe it will help others and maybe others will know exactly how I feel and felt.

Me and Evalyn's first Birthday party.
A little glimpse; It wasn't easy taking a simple shopping trip to target with my daughter. I would get evil stares from ladies, judgment staring you right in the face everywhere you went. Afterwards I would get in my car and remember sobbing with hurt that someone could judge you when they don't know your story. They Didn't know I was an amazing mother, that I was engaged to her father; let alone trying to live life as normal as I could trying to pursue college.

10 comments

AngieOuellette-Tower said...

You have a wonderful blog!! I look forward to reading the rest of your story as you write it! I'm your newest follower from the "Think Outside the Blog" blog hop - this is my blog if you wanted to follow back: godsgrowinggarden.com
Thanks
Angie

Unknown said...

Thanks for writing this....I know certain things can be hard writing about let alone sharing with others. I don't know how it feels to be a teenage mother, but I know how it feels to be a mother and it is hard being a mother at any age. But from the looks of it, it looks like you are doing a great job, lol.

-Rekita

Megan said...

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my oldest daughter. I turned 20 the next month. I wasn't quite as young but I do look really young for my age. I always have. So I know the stares you are talking about. I had a woman ask me how old I was. I was in the mall play area with my 2 oldest playing and pregnant with my youngest. I told her 25. She said, "oh thank god, I thought we had teen mom going on over here." And I really wanted to say, "and what if we did? What business would it be of yours?"

Thanks for writing this, it's nice to learn more about who you follow. :)

Kaitlyn Hoffman said...

Thank you! Now that i'm almost 25(Jan. 18th!) I've noticed being a mother is not always an easy job still. Maybe a little easier now with age, knowledge and my husbands career? probably, lol!

Kaitlyn Hoffman said...

Thanks for sharing as well! That would of made me upset. I still get comments here and there about how young I look when i'm alone in a store with all three of my daughters. I had a comment recently from a lady who asked me if all three of my girls were mine. When I replied yes to her, she seemed shocked and came back with oh my! You must have been young! Almost like she was disgusted. I said with proud in my voice, "yes I was and happily married to their father for 5 years!" and walked away.

Unknown said...

I found your page from the GYB hop. I had my daughter at 34, so you and I are on different ends of the motherhood scale. I often get asked if she is my granddaughter! I would love to hear your story. Be proud of being courageous and doing what was right for you.

I am now following you and look forward to hearing more!
Cynthia at http://FeedingBig.com

Amber Worden said...

cant wait to read your story1 =)

Jessica @ Moxie and Mischief said...

I'm looking forward to reading your story! I was 19 when I was pregnant with my first child (who just turned 5) but I've always looked really young. I remember the stares I would get when I went out and I imagine it was because I looked young and my swollen fingers wouldn't let me wear a ring so people, I am sure, assumed I was a young, un-wed mother to be. I felt to judged and none of it was true. So I can only imagine what you must have felt. But it all worked out and you have three beautiful kids to be proud of!

Kelly Blackwell @ Heres My Take On It said...

It breaks my heart to see anyone mistreated. Teen moms, single moms, and beyond. I have to admit that I don't understand why people would be judgemental. I was not a teen mom (I was however a single mom), but my whole family was loaded with them including my own mom. My best friend in high school was married and gave birth at 18. Many and I do mean MANY years later, they are still happily married and have six children all together. Taking on the role of parent is an honor and a blessing at any age. I'm sorry that you were looked at with such blind stupidity. I'm glad that it has lessened now. Parenting isn't easy no matter what the age. It certainly does not get easier with judgement.
I'm dropping by from the Our Everyday Harvest blog hop. Hope you can stop by too. http://heresmytakeonit.blogspot.com/

Kaitlyn Hoffman said...

Thank you so much! I give so much credit to single mothers! Thumbs up! Hope you have a blessed day.