A Rough Patch

The title pretty much explains the post. Last week was a little rough with our Vivian. I didn't think much because we were all getting into a new routine. The weekend approached and she was just a peach again. It didn't phase me why at all. Monday quickly sprung upon us once again, yet again I meet a little stinker Vivian. This time 10 times worse! You know; those days where you take a deep breath and count to ten?!  I tried reasoning with her on her level, I tried time outs, nothing seemed to work. Don't forget shes our stubborn one.This time she would fight me literally to stay in time outs; kicking her legs and flailing her arms. So into her room she went to calm down. I felt horrible putting her there, but I nothing was working. The days went on like so. The talking back, attitudes, stomping of feet and so on. Towards the end of the day I was literally in tears, and thinking I thought she out grew terrible threes?!?!

   Day two rolls around, or should I say Tuesday. Another rough day in the books! I for sure thought she was back in the terrible threes again. After a long day of battles, and  a lot of counting to ten for myself; I was emotionally drained. I know shes our stubborn one, but shes not usually this stubborn to the point where I'm crying asking God for help during the days!! As I'm on a edge of a parent breakdown, I call my husbands cell at work in tears. When I was doing everything I felt I could do to discipline her and it was clearly not working, I felt like a horrible parent. My three year old was winning and I was losing! I so badly wanted to throw my hands up in the air and say , "fine you win!!"

  That might i vent out to facebook on a status. One of our awesome neighbors left an uplifting comment, to give her a big hug and some extra love. That made me start to think! The next morning after dropping Evalyn off at school, I thought Vivian was playing in her room. When I went to check on her, she was laying in her Big sissy's bed wrapped her blanket playing her leapster. At that moment it dawned on me! She misses her sister!! Shes acting out these past two days because she can't explain her feelings that well at her age yet. There's that ah ha moment!! I lay beside her and we have a heart to heart and she opens up how she misses Evalyn because shes in school all day; It makes her sad. It totally makes sense. They are close in age and are inseparable. They act as if they are twins! Today was a by far better day! We have figured out ways to help her when she misses her big sissy, and try to keep her occupied.

   I wouldn't change this little parenting lesson. It has taught me a lot.One, It's okay to feel like a failure; your never going to be the perfect parent! If you think you are, lets talk!!  LOL Two, I definitely realise how close our daughters are now.I knew they are close, but not THIS close. It's amazing to watch! After all she does have her little sister to pick on. And I'm sure I'll deal with this again when Helen misses Vivian!!